So, I’m sure some of you have noticed that recently I’ve started to reblog a few things relating to Fruits Basket. And I can hear you all rolling your eyes and muttering ‘another fandom? Really?’ Yeah, ok I know. And I have this weird thing where I get really defensive about liking Fruits Basket. Like I feel the need to justify why I like a show that’s ‘for kids’ or is considered ‘silly’.
I know this doesn’t mean I have to justify it, but this is my insecurity so deal with it.
So I decided that I would type out why Fruits Basket is important to me. And this isn’t a pitch to get you to watch it and nothing says you even have to read it. But I wanted to articulate, for me, why Fruits Basket is special, and why I rewatch the anime every 6 months and reread the manga when I can.
Lessons that I take from Fruits Basket:
1. Everyone has a story. No matter what side of themselves they present, every person has their own pain, their own insecurities, their own struggles.
2. Ask for help. It’s ok not to be able to handle your struggles on your own or to be strong all the time. Asking for help, or even just letting yourself be helped, is also a sign of strength.
3. Be careful what you say. It doesn’t matter how much pain you are in, nothing gives you the right to add to someone else’s pain. And even if it doesn’t look like someone else is hurting, you have no idea how your words affect them.
4. Liking yourself is hard. And there are lots of people who have trouble doing it. It’s really easy to find the parts of yourself you don’t like and to let yourself get lost in them. And nothing says that just because someone seems really confident on the outside, they have to like themselves on the inside.
5. Reach out to others. All it takes is reaching out to someone, giving them a smile, and saying that you like them. It seems like something small, but that is enough to start changing someone’s attitude so they can find what they like in themselves.
6. Jealousy doesn’t equal love. Loving someone, whether it is a friend, a lover, or an idol, means not to be jealous of the things that make them happy, even if it appears to take them away from you. Sometimes that hurts a lot, but learning to adjust and grow with that takes time.
7. Look at things from other perspectives. No matter how impossible it seems, you have to try and understand the people around you from their own perspective. All it really takes is the determination to meet them halfway and you can learn ideas you never would have otherwise.
8. Be kind. Everyone has the potential for kindness inside them, no matter how hard it is to find. But if you can find it, it is all the more rewarding. And sometimes, if you can find it in someone else, it can help them find it in themselves.
9. Find your own reason for being alive. Everyone is looking for it, and no one is born with one specific reason. So it is up to you to decide if your reason is in your job, your friends, the person you fall in love with or your children. And it is ok if your reason changes or if you have more than one reason. That’s life.
10. Just being alive is important. Whether or not you’ve found your reason, there are going to be times when you feel like you don’t deserve what you have. But being alive is important and wonderful and it allows you to keep searching for what matters to you. As long as you are alive, you have a chance to change and discover something new.